Decisions To Be Taken

Decisions to be Taken

When arranging a funeral, there will be many decisions that need to be made, from choosing between burial or cremation, to choosing whether or not to have flowers or donations. Some of these choices may have already been set out by the deceased, some you will have to make yourself. With a wide variety of options, our friendly staff will always be on hand to help you every step of the way, so that you can make the right decisions for your loved one.

Your Funeral Planner will need to know if the deceased had left any instructions for burial or cremation and if not, what is the preference of the next of kin?

If you are arranging for a burial you need to consider the following:

  • Has the deceased already reserved a plot?
  • What is the preferred cemetery location?
  • Is there a preference for the lawn cemetery or for a headstone cemetery?
  • Are additional reservations needed for family or significant others?

If you are arranging for a cremation, you need to consider the following:

A cremation can not take place if there are written instructions to the contrary.

  • Has the deceased left any written instructions about cremation?
  • Are there any persons who are likely to oppose a cremation?
  • Does the deceased have a pacemaker or defribulator? If so, the Funeral Planner will coordinate to have this removed
  • Is there any urgency in the return of the ashes?
  • Would you like to purchase an urn?
  • What will be done with the ashes?

You may wish to create a memorial for your loved one in a specially designed garden or wall of remembrance, create your own memorial at home or on a property or have the ashes scattered at a location of significance.

This is a decision that doesn’t need to be made straight away. Your Funeral Planner will discuss a range of options when you’re ready to talk about this.

Your Funeral Planner will arrange a celebrant or religious representative of your choosing.

If you choose Religious Clergy or an external celebrant, your Funeral Director will coordinate and work directly and collaboratively with this person to ensure a seamless and professional service.

Alternatively, you can use our own highly respected celebrant, Stephen Oldham. Stephen has conducted hundreds of services and is renowned for developing personal and meaningful services. By using our in-house Funeral Celebrant much time and stress is avoided as the Funeral Planner and the Funeral Celebrant already work regularly together.

Using a Celebrant relieves you of the burden of organising the service content at a time of bereavement and grief. You will be fully supported throughout the arrangement, planning and delivery of the service.

Some personal touches that you may like to include are:

  • Choosing a special and memorable location or venue for the service
  • Organising favourite music, recordings or a live performance
  • Placing personal items on the coffin during the service
  • Placing personal items inside the coffin such as photos, letters or drawings
  • Placing a photo on the coffin for the service
  • Arranging for clubs or organisations to attend or form a guard of honour
  • Writing and reading a eulogy
  • Inviting family and friends to become directly involved by delivering a eulogy, delivering a reading or poem
  • Arranging for family/friends to carry the coffin
  • Placing flower petals on the coffin or into the grave as part of the service

The viewing is a time for family, partners, friends and significant others to support one another in their grief.

The body is present on a specially designed bed or in an open coffin or casket.

Having a viewing is a personal choice and you should not feel pressured to attend. A viewing allows those who loved the person to say goodbye, to touch for the last time, to come together as a family or group of friends and to grieve in a private and supportive environment.

The choice of clothing is yours. Choose clothing that reflects the tastes and personality of the person who has died. Some people choose very simple clothes, others choose very bright and vibrant clothes and others prefer a traditional suit – there are no rules.

You can bring items to the viewing that you would like placed in the coffin or casket.

You will need to decide the type of coffin, casket, or urn you want.

We have a catalogue with a range of coffins, caskets and urns and we can discuss this with you when you make the arrangements.

You can obtain a copy of our coffin, casket or urn catalogue from your Funeral Planner and they are also available to download by clicking on the links below.

Coffin Catalogue Urns Catalogue

You may want to place an announcement in a local or national newspaper to tell people about the death and the details of the funeral.

We can help you with drafting and sending a death announcement to a newspaper.

After the funeral you can also place a thank you message in a newspaper to thank those who attended and sent donations or flowers.

Writing a Funeral Notice

Below is a general guide to writing a Funeral Notice. Simply fill in the blank spaces with appropriate wording.

Download the guidelines here

FAMILY name (LAST NAME) ……………………………………………………………………………..

First name/s  ……………………………………………………………………………………………………

(Known as (Nickname) “……………………………………………………………………………..”)

(nee (maiden name) ………………………………………………………………………………………)

late / formerly of ………………………………………………………………………………………………..,

passed away peacefully / suddenly on (date) ………………………………………………….

at ……………………………………………………………………………aged ………….. years.

 

Beloved Wife / Husband of ……………………………………………………………………………….

Devoted or Dearly loved Mother / Mother-in law / Father / Father-in law of ……………..

Cherished Grandmother / Great-Grandmother / Grandfather / Great-Grandfather of …..

Loving Daughter / Daughter-in law / Son / Son-in law of …………………………………….

Loved Sister and Sister-in law / Brother and Brother-in law of ……………………………..

and loved Aunt, Great Aunt, / Uncle, Great Uncle of ………………………………………….

and their families.

 

Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend (first name) ……………………’s

funeral to be held at ………………………………………………………………………………..

with Service / Prayers / Requiem Mass

commencing at (time am/pm/midday) …………………………………………………………

on (day & date) …………………………………………………………………………………….

followed by

*interment / committal at …………………………………………………………………………

*private family committal / service at …………………………………………………………..

 

No flowers by request, donations (in lieu) to ……………………………………… preferred.

Please check the spelling of all names.

Many people choose flowers that were a favourite of the person who has died. This is another way of making the funeral more personal.

Your Funeral Planner will talk you through the options.

Some people choose to have flowers from the family only and choose an organisation for people to give a donation to. It is worth remembering that sending flowers can be a healing gesture for people who have lost someone close. Therefore, it might be worth giving people the choice of sending flowers or donating money to a charity, or both.

We will ensure cards from the wreaths and bouquets are collected and provided to you. We can also collect donations on your behalf.